Showing posts with label shaynice. Show all posts
Showing posts with label shaynice. Show all posts

Sunday, September 25, 2011

Sad situaton

This post is not about running.  And if you're a teacher I'm sure this story will be no surprise to you.  Which is sad.  It's sad that kids grow up in these kinds of environments.

Last year I was a Big Sister to Shaynice.  She was a great girl.  Definitely in need of the BB/BS program, for sure.  At the time she was in the middle of sixth grade at a school a "charter" school in town.  Since I'm not a teacher and don't have kids I had to look up what exactly that meant.  Their website describes it as a "no cost" public school with volunteer enrollment.  Sounds great on paper!  I know that all the kids are inner city kids (because if you live in the suburbs with a good school system why go somewhere else in the first place?).

In trying to get Shaynice more involed and excited about reading I found that she only reads on our about somewhere in the 1-3 grade level.  The school's website also touts parental involvement and lots of other encouraging, great educational things.  Well, I get the feeling that most of the kids are from situations similar to Shaynice's.  And let me tell you - in her situation there is no parental involvement, and no parental encouragement concerning education, let alone most of the other fancy things on the school's web page - in which they try to promote the school.  It's sad for a whole lot of reasons...

But at the end of the year I decided not to renew my participation in the program.  It was a hard decision.  There was no denying that Shaynice needed a positive influence in her life.  But I just couldn't give it 100% of my attention and that wouldn't be fair to her or me.

So, I think I probably have already told you most or all of the above story.  But I've got a bit more...

When we parted ways I told Shaynice that she was welcome to call or text me.  Or heck, write me a letter.  She had my information.  Earlier in the summer I got a letter form her that was short, truly sweet and also included her new address across town.  They had moved apartments.  I really hope it was better than the one in which they were living.  Of course it wouldn't take much at all to move up in circumstances...  I sent her a card back saying I hoped she was looking forward to eight grade, which she was going to be starting at the end summer (which had just started).

About a month ago I got a text from her.  It said "hi J. how r u? parking lot pimp"

What?  Really??  I could only wonder who she'd been around to start talking like that.  I was so disappointed I didn't immediately respond.  And honestly, I then forgot about it and didn't respond at all.

Today I got another text from her.  It said " Hi J. just wanted know what ur doing Da badest bitch"

Really??  This time I owed it to her to tell her why I wasn't responding.  I replied "Shaynice - I'm disappointed that you used this kind of language in this text and your previous one.  I expected better of you.  If you want to send me a text please send me one from the young lady I know you to be."

Her response was "Im sorry thats my mom signature Da  badest bitch"

*shakes head in disbelief*