FB warm and fuzzies

When I posted on FB we had lost Nikki I was surprised by some who offered their condolences. I didn't realize they 1) read my status updates 2) cared enough to comment on my posts 3) make a reference that they had been keeping up with me via my posts. And I don't mean in a creepy way.

Case in point - I'm friends on FB with a girl I rowed with in college. We rowed together for 3or 4 years. Long time, right? But we never hung out in the same crowd so I'm sorry to say that I really never got to know her well. I knew she was a nice person and I thought her major rocked! (Well, the one she had for the first few years of school- construction management. I thought it was cool a girl choose that.) She commented on my post about Nikki something like "I'm so sorry to hear that you lost her. Especially after just having lost your other dog so recently."

I was shocked! That was so sweet. And thoughtful. And amazing that she remembered. If any of you guys reading this blog said the same thing it was would also be sweet and thoughtful but we "talk" on a regular basis and you all probably know this info like the back of your hand. She only knows it through reading and keeping up with my status up dates on FB.

This made me think. I'm a stalker kind of FB friend. I read posts but only comment on select people. Not all are close friends. Some are people I haven't seen in ages. But they're ones I don't think would be weirded out with me commenting. You know - they post something benign about a football game or food and I make a comment back. Very un-stalker like behavior. If I don't really know you (or haven't seen you in ages) I probably will not be commenting on photos of your kids. Or your husband/ boyfriend.

(Unless you're gay. And then I'm allowed to stare and drool. I jokingly do this with a guy from high school. He has the most rockin' body now that I've ever seen and his boyfriend - and other friends- are the hottests things to hit Ft. Lauderdale since hurricane..... I don't know. I'm so flustered just thinking about it I can't remeber their last big one.)

But I wish I had known some people were watching me more closely (again, not in a stalker kind of way) because I would have loved to have commented on Rower's FB when she had her first child and when she posts the most adorable pictures of her in teenie Clemson onesies.

Perhaps I'll start commenting on the Clemson onesies.

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what i love aboutFB

There are many drawbacks to facebook. (Especially at "our age"). But one great feature is reconnecting with those really positive friends. Not the "hip, hip hooray! Eveything is fabulous!!" one's. I'm talking about the one's that know life can be rough. And they are ther to pick you up. And your job is to do the same for them. Even if you haven't seem them in decades.

Love you Frogger!

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To friend or not to friend... that is the question.

Whew!!!  My "missing" college friend, Missing in CT,  DID accept my friend request and does NOT think I'm a stalker.  Ok, she didn't say that she doesn't think I'm a stalker - but I'm pretty sure if she did she wouldn't have accepted my friend request.  She commented back on my wall that I should look through her friend list as there are people from the old gang on there.

I should have known - all the "old friends" are boys.

A little background on MCT.  As I stated before, she was/ is completely and utterly devoted to "Fred".  Even though he was at school over 10 hours away, she never strayed.  Always professing her love for him (when it came up.  I mean, she didn't hang out in the hall reciting poetry dedicated to him or anything.  She didn't sicken us with it.)  But all this devotion was much to the chagrin of all the boys we hung out with.  MCT was (and still very much is) hot.  And a flirt.  The girl was just nice all around.  And in college - a lot of times being really nice to a boy = flirting.  Serves the boys right to have to suffer.  They knew she was already taken.

I digress... the point is she was friends with all the boys.  Half of those boys I dated.  One, in particular, I had a pretty sticky history with.  But life moves on and I'm over it.  But there's that little piece of me that wants to friend the old boyfriends just to snoop.  Just to see how their life turned out.

But upon further introspection I decided not to.  It's not worth it.  First, they probably wouldn't accept the request anyway - unless of course they wanted to find out how I was faring...  Second, it's irrelevant.  Who do you know who has a crappy life actually portrays their life as crappy on FB??  People bend over backwards to make sure the rest of the FB world thinks their life is the best!  couldn't be better!!  The whole don't-you-wish-you-were-me thing.  Ok, not everybody does that.  Some are more humorous about their crazy realities.  Wish I like just as much.  But I'm pretty sure if I went to their pages it would shout "I'm doing great!! I'm successful!"  So why bother letting them know that I want to look?  Plus, I'm sure if I wanted any good dirt I could just ask MCT to give me the scoop. 

I should clarify - that I do not want to look just to see if they have crappy lives - I wish everyone to have great success and happiness.  But I'm just sayin'....